If you saw my 2015 – part II post, I mentioned that andrew and I were going to secretly get married a different million times. In more detail, we had been seriously talking about marriage probably at least since graduation. We always tried to figure out when but I think the “perfect” time was always years away, which was really discouraging to us.
I used to use pinterest a lot during undergrad and had put together a wedding board. When we started talking about the fact that there would never be a perfect time and if there was, it would always be too far away. The more I started researching how to make the pinterest board tangible, the more I came to see that the wedding industry had become an extreme money making industry prying on women mostly concerned with aesthetics. With that, I wasn’t sure I really wanted to contribute. Honestly, to each their own but after reading books on marriage and divorce, just looking at statistics, and even reading articles written by some of these brides, I personally felt like a lot of people nowadays get married just to have their fairy-tale dream wedding come true (obviously, this is not true for everybody). And wedding companies know this and use it to their advantage and I didn’t want to be a part of that even in the slightest. I didn’t want a wedding where I would have to entertain guests just so that they could judge how amazing or not my wedding was when really, I just wanted to say my vows to andrew. But more of that in the wedding post.
With that said, this past summer, andrew went to my house and asked my dad for my hand in marriage. Apparently, he said that he gave us his blessing as long as we didn’t try and pull a secret stunt. Clearly, he knew us too well. After we got engaged (fantastic weekend, by the way), andrew and I sat down with my parents to discuss our ideal wedding, which was still an elopement. They definitely were not up with that and long story short, we came up with a compromise: immediate family only and a small group of friends we considered family.
Again, more later in the wedding post but for now this is how our 6 month engagement, which really should have been a zero month engagement came way and these wonderful pictures were produced.
Picture credits go to Leo Cabal for the first half in Big Sur and Angela Payaban for the second half in SF/Mt. Tamalpais.
I added this last picture because I had been and still am, actually extremely into poetry and had read this specific poem around this time.